Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships

From Trauma to Healing: Dr.Janie Lacy's Journey into Love Addiction Recovery

Dr. Janie Lacy shares how her career in counseling began, sparked by a pivotal experience with a young client who survived sexual assault. This led her to explore trauma, love addiction, and eventually join the CSAT community. Subscribe for more insightful conversations and empowering stories! Stay tuned for our full episode with Dr. Janie Lacy.

Sex Addiction Therapists Get Real

In this episode, they provide insight into how we balance empathy, accountability, and challenge while working with addicts. We explore the complexities of detecting deception, handling relapses, and creating safe spaces for clients to share their struggles. This candid conversation offers a deep dive into the nuances of therapy for sex addiction and the transformative power of recovery.

Why We Love Working with Sex Addicts?

Working with sex addicts can be deeply challenging but also incredibly rewarding. In this discussion, we share our experiences and perspectives on why we are passionate about this specialty. The work isn't just about addressing sexual dysfunction or relational issues; it's about guiding people through their journey of healing, transformation, and self-restoration. We talk about the privilege of being trusted to help clients navigate their shame, trauma, and pain, and how we help them turn these dark experiences into growth and hope.

Quick Conversations: Balancing Empathy and Accountability

The discussion also touches on balancing empathy with accountability. While it's important to avoid shaming the client, it's equally essential not to minimize their relapse. The approach includes both encouragement and challenge, analyzing what happened and identifying steps to prevent future relapses.

The goal is to help clients harness feelings of regret as motivation for change, without letting them fall into a deep shame spiral. This balanced approach seems to foster more open communication and honesty from clients regarding their behaviors. 

Mailbag: Relapse and Recovery With Sex Addiction

Today’s mailbag episode tackles a complex question from a listener about relapse and recovery.

The question revolves around the pain of discovering a partner’s hidden sex addiction and the struggle with the concept that relapse is part of recovery. We explore whether relapse is acceptable or justifiable, discuss the impact on partners, and delve into the accountability of sex addicts.

We address the idea that while relapse can occur, it’s not an excuse for continued harmful behavior. Our discussion highlights the importance of clear expectations and accountability in recovery, and we offer insights on how to manage and prepare for potential setbacks.

Would the treatment for sex addiction differ if most addicts were women instead of men?

Would the treatment for sex addiction differ if most addicts were women instead of men?

Clinically, the model remains the same for both genders, holding all addicts to the same standards of recovery. However, societal perceptions often differ, giving different leniencies to men and women. While the treatment approach focuses on ""progress, not perfection"" for everyone, societal and partner reactions to addiction and relapse can vary based on gender dynamics.

Stay tuned for our future video!

Is Relapse an Excuse? The Hard Truth About Addiction, Sobriety, and Recovery

In our latest discussion, we explore the complex issue of addiction, relapse, and recovery, particularly in the context of sex addiction. The central question is whether it is ""okay"" for a sex addict to cause harm to their partner and family, with the justification that ""relapse is part of recovery."" 

While relapse may occur for some addicts, it is not ""okay"" or an excuse for harmful behavior. There is a distinction between sobriety and recovery; sobriety is the starting point, and recovery involves ongoing work to heal the damage caused by addiction. Stay tuned for our future video!

Technology's Influence on Relationships

Join us for an insightful discussion on the double-edged sword of technology in today's world, featuring Tim Stein, Jeannie Vittoni, Dan Drake, and Wendy Conquest. In this episode, we dive into how technology shapes our lives and relationships, the impact it has on our brain chemistry and development, and the challenges we face in staying truly connected.

Drawing insights from an interview with Dr. Pat Carnes, we explore topics like screen time, social isolation, and the addictive nature of our devices. From personal stories to research findings, we discuss how to find balance and stay mindful in a tech-driven age. Don’t miss this engaging conversation! 

Quick Conversations: Are we happier with cell phones

Did you know that 39% of Americans report feeling lonely or lacking significant relationships? In today's episode, we explore the growing sense of isolation and disconnection many of us feel in our technology-driven world. From walking our dogs while glued to our phones to missing out on real-life interactions, we're slowly burying ourselves in our devices. We discuss an alarming trend: the inverse relationship between a country's wealth (GDP) and its happiness levels. Stay tuned for our future episode.

Quick Conversations: Don't Touch My Phone

Have you ever thought about how often you reach for your phone daily? In this episode, we dive into our growing attachment to technology—phones, computers, and beyond. Stay tuned for our future episode.