Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships

What happens when the person you love most becomes a stranger and then dares to change?

In this powerful and emotionally raw episode, Rebecca Crews reflects on the unraveling and rebuilding of their decades-long marriage to Terry. She shares the moment she began to believe change was possible not because of words, but because of action: Terry stepping into rehab, risking his image, and choosing vulnerability over pride.

For years, Rebecca lived with someone who was angry, withdrawn, and impossible to reach. As the layers of betrayal surfaced, what followed was a painful, unexpected shift. Terry came home as someone new, broken open, tearful, and desperate not to lose his family. If you've ever questioned whether healing is worth the fight, this story will stay with you.

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What does it take to stay married and truly connected for over three decades after betrayal?

In this heartfelt conversation, Rebecca Crews opens up about their 36-year marriage, her grandfather’s influence, and the deep gratitude she feels for the journey they’ve walked with sex addiction.

The discussion touches on the rollercoaster of trust, the all-or-nothing mindset often present in betrayal trauma, and the reality that healing isn't linear.  Rebecca reminds us that long-term love isn’t about perfection, it’s about presence, accountability, and choosing each other through every twist and turn.

Whether you're navigating your own recovery or supporting someone else’s, this is a story of resilience, faith, and the power of showing up imperfectly, but wholeheartedly.

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In this episode, Allan Katz shares the inspiration behind his powerful workbook, Navigating the Phases of Sex Addiction Recovery. This isn’t just a guide to staying sober it’s a deep dive into what comes next: finding meaning, living with integrity, and rediscovering purpose.

Designed for those who’ve already begun their sobriety journey, Allan’s book introduces his VIP model Values, Integrity, Purpose and explores how distractions like technology, work, relationships, and emotional disconnection can keep people from living a fulfilling life post-addiction.

Allan offers a clear and compassionate roadmap to help individuals go beyond just “not acting out” and instead move toward a more grounded, values-based life.

In this conversation, you’ll learn:
Why sobriety is only the first step and what comes after
The 4 biggest distractions that derail recovery
How to replace character defects with integrity-based living
Why feelings, relationships, and purpose are essential for healing

If you or someone you love is on the path of recovery, this discussion is a must-watch.

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Kim Litton with raw honesty, she opens up about her journey from addiction and trauma to freedom and recovery, offering a powerful message: hope is real, and healing is possible.

Kim speaks about the myths and misconceptions around female sex and love addiction, the impact of childhood wounds, and how the desire to be seen and valued shaped her early relationships. This isn’t just a story of recovery, it’s a testimony of reclaiming self-worth, breaking generational patterns, and finding true freedom.

Tune in to hear:
Why Kim kept the most vulnerable parts of her story in the book
What female sex and love addiction really looks like
How childhood trauma shaped her understanding of love
The deeper message of hope, healing, and limitless possibility

This is a conversation for anyone who’s ever felt unseen, unloved, or unsure if freedom was possible for them. Kim’s story is proof that transformation is not only real but worth every step.

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Adam Nisenson speaks about the overlooked emotional journey of men navigating betrayal trauma. He introduces the 7 stages of what he calls masculine betrayal trauma, a healing framework that includes taboo topics like ego wounds, self-worth, suppressed anger, competitiveness, and intrusive thoughts.

Adam shares how men often internalize pain, avoid vulnerability, and struggle with the concept of safety in relationships. From unhealthy fantasies to the courage it takes to cry, this discussion challenges outdated beliefs around masculinity and healing.

If you've ever felt lost, angry, or unsure how to move forward after betrayal—this episode offers clarity, connection, and the beginnings of transformation.

Watch now to learn:
Why anger can be healthy when processed correctly
How jealousy and competitiveness show up in male healing
Why the concept of “safety” doesn’t always land for men
The unique way men heal emotionally after betrayal

Subscribe for more insights on healing, emotional growth, and real conversations around masculinity.

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Dr. Ken Adams, renowned clinician, author, and expert in the field of sex addiction treatment—joins Wendy Conquest and Jeanne Vattuone live from the IITAP Symposium to discuss his groundbreaking new book Light in the Dark co-authored with Dr. Mary Meyer and Culle Vande Garde, this book is the first of its kind to give voice to the lived experiences of adult children of sex addicts.

Ken opens up about his own journey, the shame he carried, and the powerful decision to share his personal story in the book. He also breaks down the core structure of the work: personal narratives, common characteristics of adult children, roles they play in the family, and a clear path to healing—with an emphasis on reclaiming personal power and moving beyond a victim identity.

Whether you’re a clinician, a survivor, or someone looking to understand the intergenerational impact of sexual addiction in families, this episode offers hope, clarity, and a new lens for healing.

Trigger warning: This episode discusses topics related to family trauma, sexual addiction, and shame. Please listen with care.

Learn more about Light in the Dark and Ken’s work at kennyadamsphd.com

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Dr. Ken Adams never set out to become an author but sometimes, the story finds you before you know how to tell it. In this moving and honest conversation, Ken recounts the origin of his newest book Light in the Dark, a long-awaited exploration into the lives of adult children of sex addicts.

Speaking with Jeanne Vattunne and Wendy Conquest live at the IITAP Symposium, Dr. Adams shares how his professional path intersected with his own unresolved pain. Discovering Patrick Carnes’ work in the late ’80s opened his eyes to dynamics that felt all too familiar. Yet something essential was missing: no one was talking about what it’s like to grow up in that world.

With the support of co-authors Dr. Mary Meyer and Culle Vande Garde, Ken brings to light the internal struggles, relational patterns, and silent burdens carried by children raised in homes overshadowed by sexual addiction. For the first time, he also tells his own story, breaking the silence in a way that invites others to do the same.

This episode is about reclaiming your voice, validating your pain, and making space for healing where there’s been silence for too long.

Dr. Ken Adams joins hosts Wendy Conquest and Jeanne Vattuone to explore a topic rarely spoken about: the invisible burden carried by children who grow up in homes shadowed by sexual secrets and betrayal.

Drawing from decades of clinical experience, Ken sheds light on how children absorb the confusion, shame, and broken trust that ripple through families affected by sex addiction.

This conversation opens a door to understanding the profound impact of betrayal trauma across generations, and the courage it takes to finally name it.

What happens when a man is sexually betrayed and no one talks about it?

In this powerful episode, Adam Nisenson joins Dan Drake and Tim Stein live at the ITAP Symposium to break the silence around male partner betrayal trauma.

Adam shares his personal story of discovering his wife’s affair over a decade ago, and how that painful experience led him to write A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal, the first book of its kind written by a man, for men.

The conversation explores why betrayed men often stay silent for years, and how male betrayal trauma manifests in unique ways such as competitiveness, jealousy, and intrusive thoughts. Adam opens up about the shame and cultural stigma that prevent men from seeking help, and how most available resources are directed toward women, leaving men without guidance.

Adam's story is not just about heartbreak, it’s about reclaiming self-worth, finding your voice, and redefining masculinity in the face of deep emotional pain.

Healing from sex addiction and betrayal isn’t a solo journey—especially for men. In this insightful conversation, the struggle many men face with opening up, often stuck in the “ego trap” of having to fix everything alone, is explored. The truth? Recovery requires connection, empathy, and tools—and it often starts when one man breaks the silence, encouraging others to do the same.

Discover why a brotherhood or supportive community is crucial, and why professional guidance can make all the difference in sustained healing. The importance of understanding from betrayed partners and how recovery books and workbooks are evolving to meet the unique needs of men is also discussed.

Whether on your own healing path or supporting someone who is, this video offers real talk about vulnerability, accountability, and the power of witnessing each other’s journey.