Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships

Women in Love Addiction Recovery: A Conversation with Dr. Janie Lacy

Welcome to another episode of Conversations on Sex, Addiction, and Relationships with Tim Stein, Judy Vitone, and Wendy Conquest. In this special episode, we are thrilled to have Dr. Janie Lacy as our guest. Janie is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) who has done extensive work with women in recovery from love addiction. She also founded the Women Redeemed program, helping women reclaim their lives from unhealthy relationship patterns.

We dive deep into love addiction, women's recovery, and how Janie's approach has changed the lives of countless women. Learn about the challenges women face in seeking help and how Janie’s experience and insights can be a beacon for those struggling.

Breaking Free from Toxic Relationships: Why Leaving Is So Hard? With Dr. Janie Lacy

Ever wondered if you're in a toxic relationship? In this video, Dr. Janie Lacy breaks down the key signs to look for—like obsessive behavior, emotional roller coasters, and the painful cycle of trying to leave but being pulled back. She also touches on the common misconception of narcissism and how it impacts relationships. If you've ever felt trapped in unhealthy relationship patterns, this video is for you. Stay tuned for our full episode with Dr. Janie Lacy.

Narcissism in Relationships: Understanding Covert Abuse and Breaking Free With Janie Lacy

In our latest video, Dr. Janie Lacy speaks on the complexities of narcissistic relationships, particularly with covert narcissists who often go undetected. She explains how these dynamics trap women in toxic cycles for years, leaving them feeling confused and blaming themselves. Stay tuned for our full episode with Dr. Janie Lacy.

Is This You? How to Recognize Signs of a Toxic Relationship with Dr. Janie Lacy

Ever wondered if you're in a toxic relationship? In this video, Janie breaks down the key signs to look for—like obsessive behavior, emotional roller coasters, and the painful cycle of trying to leave but being pulled back. She also touches on the common misconception of narcissism and how it impacts relationships. If you've ever felt trapped in unhealthy relationship patterns, this video is for you. Stay tuned for our full episode with Dr. Janie Lacy.

From Trauma to Healing: Dr.Janie Lacy's Journey into Love Addiction Recovery

Dr. Janie Lacy shares how her career in counseling began, sparked by a pivotal experience with a young client who survived sexual assault. This led her to explore trauma, love addiction, and eventually join the CSAT community. Subscribe for more insightful conversations and empowering stories! Stay tuned for our full episode with Dr. Janie Lacy.

Sex Addiction Therapists Get Real

In this episode, they provide insight into how we balance empathy, accountability, and challenge while working with addicts. We explore the complexities of detecting deception, handling relapses, and creating safe spaces for clients to share their struggles. This candid conversation offers a deep dive into the nuances of therapy for sex addiction and the transformative power of recovery.

Why We Love Working with Sex Addicts?

Working with sex addicts can be deeply challenging but also incredibly rewarding. In this discussion, we share our experiences and perspectives on why we are passionate about this specialty. The work isn't just about addressing sexual dysfunction or relational issues; it's about guiding people through their journey of healing, transformation, and self-restoration. We talk about the privilege of being trusted to help clients navigate their shame, trauma, and pain, and how we help them turn these dark experiences into growth and hope.

Quick Conversations: Balancing Empathy and Accountability

The discussion also touches on balancing empathy with accountability. While it's important to avoid shaming the client, it's equally essential not to minimize their relapse. The approach includes both encouragement and challenge, analyzing what happened and identifying steps to prevent future relapses.

The goal is to help clients harness feelings of regret as motivation for change, without letting them fall into a deep shame spiral. This balanced approach seems to foster more open communication and honesty from clients regarding their behaviors. 

Mailbag: Relapse and Recovery With Sex Addiction

Today’s mailbag episode tackles a complex question from a listener about relapse and recovery.

The question revolves around the pain of discovering a partner’s hidden sex addiction and the struggle with the concept that relapse is part of recovery. We explore whether relapse is acceptable or justifiable, discuss the impact on partners, and delve into the accountability of sex addicts.

We address the idea that while relapse can occur, it’s not an excuse for continued harmful behavior. Our discussion highlights the importance of clear expectations and accountability in recovery, and we offer insights on how to manage and prepare for potential setbacks.

Would the treatment for sex addiction differ if most addicts were women instead of men?

Would the treatment for sex addiction differ if most addicts were women instead of men?

Clinically, the model remains the same for both genders, holding all addicts to the same standards of recovery. However, societal perceptions often differ, giving different leniencies to men and women. While the treatment approach focuses on ""progress, not perfection"" for everyone, societal and partner reactions to addiction and relapse can vary based on gender dynamics.

Stay tuned for our future video!